Summary of "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior"

Summary of “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”

Many people curious about how Chinese parents produce many remarkable children that excellent in academic, music, and professional success. Amy Chua, mother of two successful daughters, wrote an essay “Why Chinese Mother Are Superior” to share her story about raising her kids in a Chinese way. She compares the way she trains her kids is different than Western parents and Chinese parents. She gives many examples of Chinese parenting such as, her kids were trained music instrument many hours a day. She created many rules that her children were not allowed to do. She choose the activities for her children. She believed that Chinese family think that parenting achievement is to produce a successful children in school. She mention about Chinese parent also believe that their children can be the best at studies and activities. The kids will touch the enjoyment only when they good at it and that must come with hard training. Such a tough training many people were not agree with the way she did. She said Western parent tend to give up early about training their kids. She mention the differences between Chinese and Western parenting such as, Chinese parents can say things that western parent can’t say like call their kid” Fatty” as refer to health. Western parents are too worry about hurting their child’s feeling so they will not say anything that might damage kid’s self-esteem. Chinese parents can demand and order straight As from their kids because Chinese parent believe that their child can get them. Western parents tend to persuade kids to try to do their best. Chinese parents are pushing their kids to overcome their own desire. Western parents are too worry about how their children’s will feel. In the last part, she conclude that Chinese way of loving their children is to prepare them for the future. Western parents are loving their kids by provide them positive support. Two different mid-set that separate these two type of parenting.

 

My response is...

I am not agree or disagree with her way to raising her children. In fact, I am happy for her that she successfully produced two amazing daughters in their academic study and musician mastery.  As many people might disagree the way she raised her kids but nobody can really answer what is the right ways to do. The way she did is just one of many ways of parenting. She mentioned that she had done some mistake along the way. I think it is okay because all she had done is about loving her children and to prepare them for the future. When her children can take care of themselves, they can choose to do what they like later on. I will use my experience for example. As a child, my parent choose what I study and I obeyed and fulfill their wishes. If you asked me when I was a kid or teenager what I want to do or what I want to be. My answer will be “I have no idea” or “I want to stay home and do nothing”. I will answer something without the second thought. I will be lost without my parent’s decision. As I grew up, I graduated technical school because of my parent. I tried to work and I didn’t like my job so I came back to school to study something that I like. My parent is respected my decision because I am an adult now. They felt that they have done their job and now it’s myself to make my very own decision. I think it is right for my parents to choose which way I should go or do. Because they just want to make sure that I will be fine in the real world and I am glad what they have done for me. I am so thankful.